tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1355133708140025511.post4215287186094175517..comments2023-07-07T03:52:55.680-04:00Comments on Anxious Moments: When is Enough...well...Enough?Wenderinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07340237940859669413noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1355133708140025511.post-159073633933517872008-07-17T18:23:00.000-04:002008-07-17T18:23:00.000-04:00I can relate, too. I have some friendships that h...I can relate, too. I have some friendships that have taken a different direction very recently. I think at some point, you have to weigh the value of your continued efforts against the detriment of continued hurts.<BR/><BR/>For me, disentangling myself from those friendships is less painful than continuing to be disappointed. I hope BL can find resolution.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14511183923291833798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1355133708140025511.post-43925619508813363572008-06-17T18:19:00.000-04:002008-06-17T18:19:00.000-04:00I'll paraphrase the best advice anyone ever gave m...I'll paraphrase the best advice anyone ever gave me.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes you just have to recognize that someone is not being a friend and as much as you want to give them the benefit of the doubt you just have to cut them loose.<BR/><BR/>Yes, I can totally relate to the dilemma.Boogaloo Dudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07899828315605303086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1355133708140025511.post-65471679351771705842008-06-17T15:29:00.000-04:002008-06-17T15:29:00.000-04:00I know a little about this situation - so to exten...I know a little about this situation - so to extend yet another invitation would be just a courtesy. Her friend will not come. She has an illness that her family has not helped her to overcome, in fact they've enabled her to the point of dysfunction. Personally, I'd remember the good times and keep her in my heart, but BL can't change her, so to continue to hope and be let down would just be too hurtful for me.KiKihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07935706632626613446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1355133708140025511.post-30785063236066393532008-06-17T08:11:00.000-04:002008-06-17T08:11:00.000-04:00I've done it... and while I've missed the things t...I've done it... and while I've missed the things that never happened and think of one friend (in particular) often... I know it was the right thing to do.<BR/><BR/>When you know that the simple THOUGHT of inviting her immediately casts a pall over that event, why would you bother to do it? Glutton for punishment?<BR/><BR/>My advice to your friend... don't extend the invitation. You already know the answer. Deal with the fallout as it occurs.<BR/><BR/>When decades of attempts to make it work have failed - you're long overdue for stopping the madness.<BR/><BR/><STRONG><A HREF="http://www.thepsychoexwife.com/2007/12/about-psycho-ex-wife.html" REL="nofollow">~Mister-M</A></STRONG>Mister-Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903888806444652336noreply@blogger.com