Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Seeking the Perfect Beach House
I spent most of my evening on http://www.cyberrentals.com/ filtering through properties that suit all of our needs - must be waterfront (we've been spoiled by that), preferably on Cape Cod Bay side (Nantucket Sound is too rough), and have at least 4 bedrooms that can suit the needs of 5 adults and 2 kids. I found some decent options...but I'm just throwing it out to the blogosphere in case anyone has a rich widow aunt who would love us to stay at her mansion on the beach and just isn't advertising it. If you've got a tip, jot me a comment and I'll get in touch.
In the meantime, Christmas and work are monopolizing my time...so blogging pace has slowed. I'll try to pick it up better next week.
To entice you to keep reading, I'm announcing some future topics that have been rolling around my brain.
A Face Made for Radio
Penguin Craziness
Least Favorite Christmas Gifts - the In-Law Series
Winter Reading List
G'Day Brisbane
New Years Resolutions I Will Attempt...Again
Best Post Titles EVER
...not necessarily in that order.
Stay tuned!
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Orange You Glad We're Friends?
I have two very good friends (where I tend to be the glue) to keep us all together. I met them both when we lived in an apartment complex in Nyack NY. Ter was just starting a new business - her own floral design shop, specializing in dried floral arrangements and displays. Lula was, like me, in a corporate position and had been with her company for a long time. We were all married and the six of us made quite the crew.
We've been through a lot together. Childbirth, marriage woes, divorce struggles, job stresses, family deaths, and all the myriad of joys and sorrows of life. I love these two women to death. While we no longer get to spend every weekend together, we try to see one another for a girl's weekend at least once a year, and we try to be there for one another for those important moments in life.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
100 Things
Following tradition - here's my 100 things on my 100th post.- I'm 40...
- for another month
- I've lived in NY state my whole life
- early years - Rochester
- college years - Geneseo;
- post college years - Rochester, Wappingers Falls, Monsey, Nyack, Monroe, Suffern.
- I used to play piano
- I guess I still could if my life depended on it
- but not well
- I used to go to church
- I used to sing in the choir
- I don't like church anymore
- actually I don't like religion anymore
- I still have faith
- I LOVE MY HUSBAND
- was that really the 15th thing? It should have been #1!
- He met me when I was 19 - he was 20
- I totally did NOT want to get serious
- He totally DID
- We totally fell in love
- Crazy and engaged at 21
- Crazier and married at 22
- Still crazy and still married at 40
- I'm the baby of the family
- I have 4 older brothers and sisters
- They are actually half-brothers and sisters
- Dad was married before
- Two of them are awesome
- One is a bit nutty
- One is .... I have no words
- My father passed away in 2003
- I miss him every day
- My mom is still very much alive
- We have a deep and abiding love/angst relationship
- I have no kids
- by choice
- I love my friends' kids
- I love the kids in my family
- I don't want them full time
- Luckily Hubby feels the same
- I seduced hubby in a drunken haze
- Thank God
- I rarely drink now
- But when I do - it's some form of cosmo-martini thing
- mostly cuz they are pretty
- and they taste yummy
- I'm a diet pepsi addict
- I also love all things junk food
- I was an English major in college
- I love to read
- I had to change majors because my average in my accounting classes was about 40%
- My roommates liked to grade my tests because we would laugh hysterically
- We could go for multiple pages before I got a single right answer
- It was so sad, it was funny
- I still keep in touch with most of my roommates
- They are cool chicks
- I am glue
- by this I mean - I tend to keep various people connected
- I bring them together for reunions, weekends, dinners, etc.
- Otherwise they'd never see each other again
- I think (hope?) they like that about me
- I often feel like a scatter brain
- I have very little memory capacity
- My mom says its because of Aspartame poisoning
- I'm currently enrolled in college again
- This time for my masters
- I love/hate it - but as of today (one class in) I have a 4.0!
- One of my favorite books is Prince of Tides
- Pat Conroy can write, my friends
- My current favorite movie is Love Actually
- Feel good, sweet, great accents, terrific score
- I am a procrastinator...
- That's why I work well under pressure
- I try to make my co-workers put me under pressure early
- I'd love to write a book someday
- I'm not convinced I have the drive to start and/or finish
- I'm still waiting for my 15 minutes of fame
- I fear it will be in a "fashion don't" feature in the local news
- My anxieties are many (hence the blog name)
- But I cover them up pretty well
- My friends get to hear them though
- My husband knows them all intimately
- He still loves me
- Thank God
- I can be pretty tough to take sometimes
- Bitchy, whiney, difficult
- I save all that up for the people who love me most
- I love chocolate layer cake
- But in a pinch a ding dong will do
- I'm a night person
- I feel like going to sleep early is like giving up...something
- which is why I can never get up in the morning and get a late start every day
- its a vicious circle
- I like my job
- mostly
- I love the people I work with
- mostly
- Did I mention I love my husband?
- and he loves me?
- Thank God
The 'One Week Job' Project
I learned about this from a member of my blog roll (Flagged for Follow Up). This guy has an interesting approach to the job market. Wish I'd thought of it before I was married and had a mortgage! Watch the video, and visit his website/blog at www.oneweekjob.com.
In the Airline Industry, Time is Relative
Great.
I've been getting automated calls/emails from Continental that keeps conflicting with info I'm getting at gate...which one do you trust? I think it is a concerted effort to keep us all unbalanced so we don't rush the desk. All I really want to rush is the airport bar or cafe, but I CAN'T LEAVE THE GATE!
When it comes to air travel and the air industry as a whole,
time is relative.
Good News: There are actually timepieces out there
for the people who live on relative time.
Watch #1: Time is Relative Watch

On line ad promotion: "This watch spits in the face of convention. It grabs hold of the norm and flushes it down the toilet of conformity. And it tells time, too. Unlike every other timepiece ever made, this watch has numbers that are in constant motion. The hands of the watch reflect the actual time of day, but the numbers march to their own drummer. (We haven't opened a watch yet, but we're pretty sure a miniature drummer is inside there.)
The Relativity Watch comes in an attractively normal gift box. It has a genuine leather band and an accurate Japanese quartz movement. (If you ever held a piece of Japanese quartz, you know how accurate it is.)
Surely, by this time, we've convinced you to purchase a Relativity Watch. You don't even realize it, but this is the 29th time you have read this page. You're caught in an endless time warp that loops you back to the moment you pressed the button that took you to this page.
The only way to break the cycle is to purchase a Relativity Watch. If you don't you're doomed to read this ridiculous page for the rest of eternity. Sure, you laugh. Just like you did the previous 28 times you read this."
Signals Catalog item description: "Look no hands. A watch for those who live in the moment, this is a manifesto, not a timepiece. Wheels, pins, pivots, and jewels have been replaced with sand and a stone etched "NOW." The battery never needs replacing because there isn't one."
Watch #3: Einstein Time Is Relative Watch
I have no photo of this...it no longer seems to be available. But I purchased it once for a friend who was notorious about time management. He would leave for a quick errand to the corner store and come home 4 hours later. No calls, no apologies, no clue. We bought this watch because we laughed hysterically when we saw the face which said 1ish, 2ish, 3ish and thought immediately of this friend. He opened the gift on Christmas Eve...and was totally puzzled, "I don't get it." We laughed even harder.
So, gentle readers, if you know of any road warriors in your life, you might want to consider one of these watches as a timely holiday gift. It may help them decipher the airline schedule a little better.
But just so you know. The Relative Time Watch is out of stock. They anticipate getting it back in on the 25th...or maybe the 29th...or maybe after first of year...(I think we need a relative calendar too).
Flakes on a Plane
And the meal? Stellar as always. Nuked Cheese Pizza Circle. Ruffles Potato Chips. Snickers Bar. Diet Coke. They must have gotten this menu from the local school cafeteria.
Out the window. Nothing but clouds and blackness. Except this wierd section where there was this bizarre multi-colored glowing below us. UFOs? Probably not. Probably just a massive city burning up the ozone layer. It was diverting though...you know...from the Flakes.
My reward? The Westin. Ah. The Westin. My favorite hotel chain. Best beds in the world (and according to the in-room brochure, you too can have this quality sleep experience at home for only $3645!) quick and easy internet access, beautiful artwork, SWEET bathrooms, flat screen tvs, Starbucks coffee in room, king size bed, NON-smoking hotel, M.I.N.I.B.A.R.!!!!! AND? mini-Haagan Dazs ice creams - cuz I obviously didn't get my daily recommended quantity of fat with the in-flight meal service.
I may actually enter the meeting tomorrow morning with a smile. Thank you Westin.
Sunday, December 9, 2007
8 Things....I say often
Eight Things...I'm known to say often:
- "Does that make sense?"
I feel that I explain...a lot...and sometimes the blank looks or lack of response I get from people causes me to require an affirmative response. It's not just that I am checking on them, it's that I need confirmation that I am making sense. - "I'll be right up."
My husband tends to go to bed at a reasonable time. I am loathe to give up (for whatever reason I see it as a battle - a battle for time, a battle for FREE time) and go to bed. Hubby must, by habit, doubt my word as he too often finds me asleep on the couch later that same night. - "You're a Good Man, Charlie Brown"
Hubby is Charlie Brown...I've mentioned that before. He does kind things, good things, for people - especially me and our family - so many a day I quote this phrase to him, to let him know that I notice. - "FU$*!"
I say this A LOT. I picked up the bad habit in early years and now it is a common part of my every day language. No other word tends to bring the same emphasis - good, bad, ugly, sad, happy, humorous...the word has so many iterations. - "Have You Seen X, Y, Z?"
I constantly lose things. Little things, big things. Keys. Papers. Shoes. Gloves. Whatever was last in my hands as I walked from room to room. Lost. All. Lost. Found only when no longer needed. (This is also I time when I refer back to quote Number 4). - "This morning on NPR..."
I am continuously informed and entertained by NPR. It is a regular part of my morning diet. I awake to it at 6AM, and listen to it until I get to work at 9AM. After 3 hours I have lots of information to share. - "I Give Up"
I never actually do, but I say this often. Usually in response to utter frustration in dealing with SFPs. (Stupid F-ing People). When people clearly don't get it (see quote in Number 1) after repeated explanations and what I think is clear logical thinking...I get very frustrated. I sometimes resort to Item 4, then Item 7, then Item 4 again...before I count to 10 and start over. - "Do You Love Me?"
Hubby is not a typical stoic male. He is very free with telling me how he loves me. So my asking this is not a starvation for affection and affirmation, rather it is a phrase that often precedes..."will you get me a drink?", "will you go down and bring up the laundry", "will you go to the store and pick up...", etc. Shameless I know. Hubby has actually given up responding with a "Yes" to this question. Instead he responds with, "What do you need?". I guess my ploy is a little played.
Whew. I feel like I just passed a kidney stone. Hopefully I can continue to work my way through this writer's block with the help of these little assignments.
Stay tuned!
Feeling Uninspired
I've been feeling that way about blogging this week. Not feeling depressed, sick, angry, or in any other way down and out. Just not inspired.
In an attempt to get inspired, I started searching for a topic. I read other blogs, I listened to the radio, I searched my soul. Yeah. You guessed it. EMPTY. (mostly the soul - not my favorite blogs!) At least empty of topics that I felt I could own for myself. Also, I noticed a few of my favorites had deserted their sites, so I updated my blog roll. Do you think they were feeling uninspired as well?
So, be patient with me, I'll keep searching.
In the meantime, maybe you have a question for me that can at least get my fingers clicking on the keyboard again in some forward momentum. Ask away.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Team? Teaching
No problem right?
WRONG.
Teacher #1: On schedule, on point, structured, focused.
Teacher #2: Um...not so much. She interrupted a lot and wanted to go on tangents.
Teacher #1: Has taught grad program courses and multiple universities.
Teacher #2: Has never taught.
Teacher #1: Provided instruction with case study examples and expected student participation. Guided and corrected as discussions unfolded.
Teacher #2: Had incredibly long pauses where she couldn't figure out what she had planned to say, then took one student's personal example/homework and spent 45 minutes quizzing him about details on class time.
Teacher #2: Is totally clueless - I just know it.
Teacher #1: Is struggling not to roll her eyes at Teacher #2 - I know that too.
Friday, November 30, 2007
And A Beer!
(okay, let me try this one more time)
In the heyday of SNL, there were wonderful characters like those crazy canadians Bob and Doug Mackenzie. I was thinking of them as I drove to work this week, being driven nearly insane by the constant barage of Christmas music. (Damn people, it's not even December yet.)
Anyway, if you must have Christmas music this early, at least make it funny. (Eileenie - this one's for you!)
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Punishment for Freddie
Blogger is not allowing me to post my totally funny and inspired message connected with a youtube vid. I've tried 10 times - no luck.
And I've got some kind of "error on page" message. (Kiki - help! it's code!!!)
Plus it looks like half of my header is cut off.
In Addition (or rather not in addition) - my counter has dropped from 140+ to 16 - WTF????
Whatever.
I'll try again tomorrow.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
The Mysterious Appeal of Freddie Prinze Jr.
Sometimes my hubby groans when I pick up the remote. Somehow I am inexplicably drawn to the most ridiculous teen romance comedy flicks.This seems to be Freddie Prinze Jr. month.

I've watched two of his movies in the last week, and I can't seem to look away. These car wreck movies that have no plot, no redeeming value, not even great co-stars can save them.
But this guy...he eats up the screen and captures my imagination. Wierd.Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Marian...Librarian
School has changed SO MUCH. No one has heard of a card catalog system. No one has heard of microfilm/microfiche. There are umpteen databases of reference systems and each one has its own login and password that you have to remember. I'm feeling ancient. I need to either go back in time to a simpler world (which was actually harder, but I knew how to do it!) or jump forward to the Star Trek era so I can simply say, "Computer: show me all of the case studies printed in the 2007 Harvard Business Review pertaining to the Mattel Toy-China fiasco." And have them all appear on a wall screen for easy viewing.
Why oh why aren't we there yet?
Small Aside: When I was a kid I totally expected to be in a hovercraft by the time I was 40. I mean at 40 I would be ancient right? By that time, they should have figured out hovercrafts and laser guns and peace in the Middle East, right? What's up with the slow pokeness of life?
Anyway, I finally gave up trying to figure out the research on my own and used the 24/7 librarian chat feature. Ok, this is one technology that is pretty cool. Someone answered me immediately. She asked what I needed. I told her - AND I told her I didn't just want her to find it and send it to me, I wanted her to TEACH me how to get it myself. Cuz I? am just an independent woman like that.
I fell in love with this woman. Not because she helped me, but because she couldn't find them either!!!! She kept apologizing and with every failure on her part to get the files I was THRILLED! I'm sure she thought I was crazy. And I can live with that. What I can't live with is stupidity. And it turns out:
I AM NOT AN IDIOT!!!!
What a freakin' relief.
Today, AFTER I had figured out at midnight last night that I was just going to purchase the damn articles from the Harvard site I found 2 weeks ago I got the following email:
Um. Yeah.This email is for students who are registering for the above course. The ONLY way you will be able to obtain the case studies that are listed on the syllabus is to go to the Harvard Business School Publishing Website. Case studies NEED to be purchased. You can pay HBS directly and download the readings. They are not available through our library system.
Signed
Dean of Business School
a.k.a. MUCH TOO LATE TO HELP BUT THANKS ANYWAY!
Is anyone else thinking, "These are the people who are supposed to be teaching me Strategic Communications??"
Monday, November 26, 2007
You're a Good Man, Charlie Brown

But it's only fair.
He's married to Lucy Van Pelt.

I'm sitting in my living room listening to him upstairs S N O R I N G like a fiend. He has a horrible cold. He? is sleeping in the guest room.
BECAUSE??? He is Charlie Brown. And I am Lucy Van Pelt.
I rule his world. I want no germs. I kicked him to the curb. I pulled the football.
And yet...All he has to do is look at me with those Charlie Brown eyes. I give the football back. I kiss him good night.
I? will probably get a damn cold.
Good grief.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Thanksgiving: Ah...Home for the Holidays!

Pre Thanksgiving Traffic
I delayed departure hoping for an early die-off, but no luck. So, my blackberry came to my rescue. I did my favorite thing when I'm confronting found time and have no access to my usual vices (food, internet, books) - I called my big sister Jude. This works out well for those evening traffic situations since she is on the west coast, 3 hours earlier, AND she loves talking to me... SWEET!
We talked about the usual things - family, holidays, schedules, her frustration in searching for the right job, living far away from people she loves, and her recent success in securing a $6,000 grant from NASA for her class (she teaches school in CA) to compete in a robot building contest. Have I told you lately how amazing my sister is? Have I mentioned how she cares for everyone else first and herself last? Have I mentioned I got her to START A BLOG???
So everyone, quick, go on over and visit http://heyjudejude.blogspot.com and meet my awesome sister. And while you're at it, go on over and meet Jude's daughter http://searchingforanevenbalance.blogspot.com They are two of the best things that ever came from our gene pool and I love them both to death.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Pain and Reflection
Now, as medical issues go. This one is minor. Very minor. But it was painful, annoying, and expensive, and generally pissed me off.
I arrived at the "Dental Arts" office where they have key lighting, an aquarium, wireless internet, a fountain, piped in symphonies, and cable tv. They have warm cloths for your face, headphones, and other spa-like options. They offer you tea or coffee (doesn't that stain your teeth?) and generally pamper you in the receiving lobby.
BUT IT'S ALL A BIG RUSE! They are just trying to get you all relaxed so you can pour yourself into that extra padded reclining chair and pretend its a lazy-boy and you're settling in for a nice nap before the Chief Torture Master arrives with all her nasty tools.

This really isn't fair. She's a nice lady and I know she is just doing her job, but MOTHER OF GOD is it really necessary for you to lean in and use five different tools in my mouth to get a little tartar out???
Seriously.
At one point, I was pulling back from her and thinking, "live and let live on the tartar babe...really...no need to get out the nukes..." Everytime I winced and whimpered she flatly replied, "sorry"...and kept right on at it.
When she finally gave me a break to rinse I was exhausted. Then she says (sweetly), "You may have a little tenderness in that one area today."
UNDERSTATEMENT OF THE YEAR.
So, is this post the most boring, most whining, most overstated misery post you ever read? I mean many of you have probably had root canals, major surgery (dental or otherwise), suffered disease, painful treatments, etc. and here I am complaining about a few metal tools digging out a little tartar in my mouth.
But such is my world. Made up of small dramas and equally small moments of joys. Little blips on the radar of life.
Monday, November 19, 2007
The Difference A Day Makes
This morning I awoke to the first real sign of winter. Just yesterday I had photographed my geraniums - unable to believe they were still green and lush. Today, they were covered in a wet snowfall that will surely speed up the seasonal change in my garden and yard. What a difference a day makes when mother nature begins her work.Sunday, November 18, 2007
Visiting Family
Despite the headaches that came with mucho-traffic and an unintended detour on the return trip, it was worth it. We loved seeing their home and hanging out with them. Normally when we see them there are tons of relatives and we get little time to just hang out. This was a treat and we'll definitely do it again sometime soon. Friday, November 16, 2007
A Few of My Favorite Things...
This picture was taken at his gallery showing. He is a photographer and watercolorist. We are fed by his day job as an IT Manager. His heart and soul is fed by art.

Number 2: Family - in all their shapes, sizes, and various levels of (in)sanity.
This is just a quick sampling of our family. I'm sure there are many missing people. I'm sure I captured all who read this though, so that should help lessen the nasty phone calls.

Number 3: Boxes, Containers, Precious Things - general tchotchkes.
My hubby jokes with me that I've never seen a box or container I didn't need. I have filled our 1930's home with many containers and my excuse is 1930s homes HAVE NO STORAGE. But it IS just an excuse. Some of the other items are inherited antiques or things I've bought on antique hunts with my Mom. They all hold a memory. So they're like containers too. The lamp in the center is one of my all time favorite things. It lights a corner of our living room and shines out all my favorite colors - gold, green, red, lavender. It's truly a work of art. It contains JOY for me.
Number 4: My Crackberry. It's a Love-Hate Relationship.
O.K. The Crackberry. I resisted getting this for a LONG time. Then my "BIG" boss - who rarely gives direct feedback during reviews, added only one thing to my list of goals for the year. "Get Blackberry." Check. One step closer to that raise and promotion. Plus...yeah...I actually like having a handheld device that gives me my phone, my schedule, my email, my to-do list, my address book, my phone list, an alarm clock, a watch, AND I can read blogs on it too!
Number 5: Top Blog-Dog
Speaking of blogs...My FAVORITE Blogs have all been listed earlier in the week...but I have to give a special shout out to That Chick Over There and her blog. Because IT? is a must read EVERY DAY.

Number 6. What I Want, When I Want It.
I'm all about that statement. DVR is my friend because it gives me What I Want, When I Want It.
Number 7. Cue the Theme Music
Digital cable not only brought our home the DVR, but also 50 channels of music, organized by theme. I'm all into the "Adult Alternative"...although it sucks that the "Alternative" station is a little too radical for my 40-year old ass.
Number 8: The Written Word
Lest you think I'm all about the technology. One of my favorite things is still curling up with a book. An old-fashioned, words on paper, book. My house is filled with them in nooks and crannies. I give about 3 boxes a year to the library. But I hoard my favorites. Or give them to people I love. To me there is no greater gift than to receive a book that has touched someone, or to give one for the same reason.

Number 9: My friends.
(No time to build a full pictorial here...but these are some of the dearest...)
“Friendship improves happiness and abates misery, by the doubling of our joy and the dividing of our grief.”
—Marcus Tullius Cicero (106-43 B.C.), Roman statesman, orator, philosopher
Number 10: The Cape.
Cape Cod is our annual vacation. We could go somewhere different every year, but the truth is, our hearts are soothed by the cold water, the warm sand, and the unique nature of a New England shore.

Hope you enjoyed this post - it was fun putting it together. Tell me YOUR favorite things!
